WrenMaxwell

Please excuse all typos and repetition and lacking organization. I did this on my new phone over several days and didn't edit it yet.

I have not been married before because I have always gravitated to unhealthy men who decide they don't want that with me. This has been my fault. I see the best qualities in people, and tend to ignore the bad, or feel that I can help them overcome the bad, if they want to (they never seem to want to). I am an INFJ-T, which explains some of this. This personality type also means that it is really hard to describe myself, as the INFJ-T is a chameleon. Under the "Lifestyle" section, I should probably click all of the options, because it really depends on who I'm with and where I am. I usually catch people off guard with how direct and unfiltered I can be one minute, and how reserved I can be the next. People tell me that I'm funny, compassionate, outgoing, shy, a leader, too easily taken advantage of, intense, too hard-working, always cool in a crisis, passionate about standing up for what I think is right, and a bunch of other contradicting adjectives. I tend to form close relationships with very few people, but very quickly. I am agreeable and have a hard time saying "no," but I will be the one to stand alone and speak out when I see injustice or betrayal. I know that sounds extreme, but I promise I'm not a rebel.

I daydream business ideas and help friends start and run businesses. I am passionate about writing and the arts, but I also want a family and home to call my own. Family is the most important thing in the world, and if that means sacrificing my dreams to help them, that is what I will do.

I don't have kids but I'd love to have my own. If I don't find a husband in time, I have this lofty dream of buying a mansion on a big piece of land surrounded by mountains and adopting tons of kids and taking in fosters.

I love staying in and watching a good movie or show or reading a great book (because I love stories), but I also like to get out and explore and try new things. I'm all for hiking, biking, kayaking, rock climbing, learning to fly planes, going to the movies, to the theater, to cultural festivals. Not into watching sports (had to say it). But I am cool with playing them, sometimes. I like to actually DO the activities, instead of just watching them. Martial arts, tennis, pickleball, archery, ballet, horseback riding. I want to experience so much. I wish there was more time.

I started out studying astrophysics in school, but I was offered a fine art scholarship in my third year, and my passion was for storytelling, so before I could graduate in astrophysics, I switched and got my degree in English Literature.

I have worked in theater AND the indie film industry as a producer. I still dabble in producing, and occasionally model and act. My pics are from some videos I've been in recently. I've also been a teacher (5th grade at a public school), a respite provider for a counseling center (working with kids), and I have taught a specific martial art weapon for 20+ years. I was once very good, but since getting an injury it has become an inconsistent hobby.

I love traveling, although I don't really have the budget, at the moment. I quit being a teacher to try to keep a promise to my late grandfather to pursue a dream of being a writer. In the meantime, I turned my side gig as a developmental editor into my main gig (book editing... mainly fantasy and scifi). Then I landed in a weird position where I have moved into my parents' house with my sister and her husband (5 adults and two kids in one 3-bedroom house... it's rough, sometimes), and now I am in the role of nanny to my sister's kids. This wasn't the plan, but my family was in need and I was in a flexible position in life. So, yeah.

FYI... 60% Gryffindor and 40% Hufflepuff

I don't know how else to say it.... I am adventurous. I do a lot of different things. I don't know how to stop being adventurous.

Full disclosure, I was in love with my best friend for 9 years. This last December (the 15th) he ended the friendship when he informed me he has a girlfriend he has been keeping a secret from me for the last 9 months. So, right now, I'm still hurting quite a bit, but I want to move on. I'm just looking to assure myself that there are good men still out there in the world. If anything ever comes from connections made today, then great. But I wanted to be totally honest up front.